“How can I focus on self-care when I feel guilty when I focus time on myself?“
Dr Allegra says….
We often don’t give ourselves the care we need to get by on a day to day basis, let alone thrive. Many women are caregivers who think we must give and give, but only to others. I used to be one of them, and often neglected myself. This is not only sad, it leaves us empty, and our health often deteriorates as a result.
This approach to life is very concerning to me. The act of giving until we have nothing left for ourselves is utterly unsustainable. Even the airlines know, if the plane is having issues and the oxygen mask drops, you must PUT YOUR MASK ON FIRST. Why? Because if you are passed out on the floor, you can’t take care of others. By taking care of yourself first, you are empowered to care for others.
What do you have to offer to anyone if you make the choice to run yourself into the ground? Not much.
I see the idea of being a martyr as a temporary solution. I am into long term solutions. How about you?
Giving yourself the right fuel is essential, just like you can’t mow your lawn once and have it be nice and trimmed forever, you can’t just eat well one day and expect the rest of your life to be properly fueled. You have to keep feeding yourself the right way, consistently and consciously to build health for the long term.
Even more so if you are a mother or a role model of any kind- YOU are literally teaching other people how to live, by how you live. You are showing them how to prioritize their lives. They will likely mimic you even when it’s unintentional. So teach them how to love themselves by showing them it is possible. Show them by showing yourself the love of self-care. Teach them how to apply self-love EVEN when life gets chaotic. Especially when life throws flaming curve balls one after the other. Because really, where else are they going to learn how to handle life with grace and joy? From you. If you don’t, they may follow someone else’s far less nurturing, far more destructive path. When that happens, it can become a tragedy.
Guided Forgiveness Meditation
If you need to learn how to begin handling life more gracefully, now is absolutely the best time to start. The people you love will watch you, and they will learn how to pick themselves up when life has been unkind, they will learn what to do to become resilient, and do the right thing, even if it has been difficult to do so up until this point.
Action always wins in the world of teaching. Many people talk a good talk but then fail to act. This incongruence erodes trust- trust with yourself and with others. So really the question is what kind of life do you want? What kind of legacy do you wish to leave? What lasting impression do you want to linger when you are gone? It is time to adjust your actions to make that fabulous legacy a reality, starting here and now.
Feeling overwhelmed by the idea of making changes? Keep in mind at this moment all you need to focus on is the choice that is in front of you.
Remember one breath, one bite, one step at a time, is all you need to begin completely changing your life for the better.
If you need help to start this journey and take that first step forward, reach out and ask, I am here to help you thrive.
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