“My partner always tells me what to do and think. I am always wrong?”
Dr Allegra says….
What would life be like if there was less yelling on a regular basis?
If there was less frustration, more ease, greater amounts of happiness, and deeper levels of being able to listen and connect?
What if arguing wasn’t a default way to communicate?
How would your relationships change if this life was a possibility for you?
Relationships can be the best and worst thing about being human.
BUT YOU HAVE OPTIONS!!!
This is the second post debunking relationship myths.
Check out the first myth here where I talk more about my personal relationship with my husband and our journey.
You can find myth #2 here.
MYTH #5: They know better than me
We all have that person who keeps telling you what to do, what you should be, what you should know. They always know better. They know more than you. Therefore, you should suspend your intuition, your understanding, and your knowledge of who you are and what you’re capable of, because they know better.
I’m going to invite you to throw this myth out, too, because, honestly, no one knows you better than yourself. But, you’ve got to be objective with yourself, gently objective, not rip yourself apart because “Things aren’t perfect” objective. But, let’s be realistic about what’s going on with you and inside of you, because this allows you to see others more clearly.
If you have blinders on about who you are, how you’re showing up, how you’re acting, and what your thoughts are doing, how are you going to be able to be clear about what other people are doing? How can you be clear on what your best step forward is?
If you’re looking at the world in a shutdown way, there’s so much that you’re missing, and that’s what we’re trying to do here, expand how you are capable of connecting. Because, ultimately, we are all connected. We are all one. We are all interacting in a community, in a world, in a universe, where we are all part of the same, bigger picture. When we shut down and don’t allow ourselves to communicate with ourselves, we cannot hope to truly communicate with those around us, because we have shut off our ability to listen.
These are just a few of the many relationship myths floating out in the collective consciousness.
I invite you to be perpetual students, to always be learning, to always be growing, and, this means, you are never going to “make it.” You will always have more learning and growth to do. This is not a bad thing. It’s more adventure that’s available to you, more opportunities to grow and learn and connect on many, many levels.
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